You might just be making excuses for him. You might just be trying to make all the alibis in the world for him. You might be trying to comfort yourself with all of these lies that you are dreaming up in your head. He doesn’t treat you terribly because he’s tired. He doesn’t act cold and distant because he’s stressed. He doesn’t act out in your relationship just because there are plenty of things going on in his mind. No. He isn’t fighting for your love for one simple reason: he doesn’t really love you. And that’s the truth. Deep down inside, you know it to be true.
You know that he isn’t just being shy or cautious. You know that he isn’t the type of guy who is just really withdrawn and secluded. He isn’t really intimidated by your alpha personality or your strength and bravery. He’s not a guy who is scared of the love that you have to give him; it’s just that he doesn’t actually love you enough to reciprocate those feelings for you. A man who is genuinely in love with you is a guy who would never stop fighting for you and the love that you might give him.
All men love the thrill of the chase. It’s part of human nature. Everything in this life is a lot more meaningful if it is earned through perseverance and hard work. Nothing in this life worth having ever comes easily – most especially love. And that’s why if a guy is genuinely in love with you, he’s going to do whatever it takes to earn your love in return. He’s going to love the challenge that comes with being able to gain your favor and capture your attention. Men always love to take matters into their own hands when it comes to love. They don’t like to sit idly by on the sidelines and wait for love to fall into their laps. Men go after the things that they want when it comes to the matters of the heart. This has how it’s always been. Men pursue the women they’re in love with. So, if you notice that your guy just isn’t pursuing you, it’s probably because the love isn’t real; it’s probably because the love is nonexistent.
Sure, he could be saying all of these things to justify why he just isn’t being all-in with you. He could tell you that he’s too busy. He could tell you that he’s just dealing with too many things outside of work at the moment. He might be saying that he’s still trying to fix some personal issues in his own life and that’s why he can’t really commit to you just yet. And all of these things might even be true. But you should know that if the love was real, none of these things would matter. Love always has a way of being able to transcend barriers and jump over hurdles. So if he’s not acting like he’s in love with you, it’s because he isn’t. And that’s a hard truth that you’re just going to have to swallow. Love isn’t something that you can force after all. Yes, you can choose to wait for him in the hopes that he’s eventually going to come around. Or you can also do the sensible thing and just walk away. Let him go. He doesn’t love you, and he probably never will. You deserve to fall in love with someone who loves you in return, and you’re not going to be able to get that with him.
Don’t make an excuse by saying that men just aren’t expressive with their feelings, and that’s why it’s okay for you to stay with him. You say that he might be in love with you, but he’s not really ready to admit it. But here’s the thing, you can always tell how a man feels about you, not necessarily by what he says, but by how he acts. And if he just isn’t putting in any effort with you or the relationship, then the answer is already staring you right in the face. You’re just being too stubborn to accept it. So just humble yourself and accept that you’re not meant to be together. Have the strength and courage to just walk away from that situation. And have faith. Trust that eventually, you’re going to find the man you’ve been waiting for. Trust that love is eventually going to make its way into your life when you least expect it. And when it does, it’s going to be the best thing you will ever have experienced up until that point. When love walks into your love, you’re going to feel an immense joy and warmth that you will not be able to contain. And it’s ONLY going to come with the right man.